Came across this bit of PaleoDrama last evening.
Popular tech site Boing Boing not only said they would not link to Nikoley’s site after learning about what it contained, they scrubbed past posts of links to it. […]
Not only that, an editor at Boing Boing personally apologized for having sent his readers to Nikoley’s site.
Sure enough. While the posts are still intact, an article from three years ago and the more recent one from November last have had the links removed. Didn’t take long to figure out who was behind bullying Mark Frauenfelder into doing that and “personally apologizing for having sent his readers to [my] site.” Presumably, that includes the many who came and improved their lives as a result (see bottom of the post). This was the bully:
But yes, Richard Nikoley’s writings are frequently misogynistic and they’d only have to scroll down a few posts to see hateful anti-Muslim bigotry, fat hatred, and demonizations of people for voting, so I have a hard time believing BoingBoing’s editors didn’t know. I did create PaleoDrama in response to Richard’s bullying of me and others.
She goes onto complain how “this started after she….” Excellent. Nice admission. She posted about me, I responded in kind, including exposing a blatant lie of hers in my comments. Incidentally, her reply to my post, among other “don’t worry about it” comments? “Heheh, don’t worry. I’m no delicate flower.”
So this one got past me. Fist time. See, way back when, I saw the writing on the wall when Melissa demanded of Stefani Ruper, whom she bullies regularly: “Denounce him. Then we’ll talk.” I got right to work, dug up some worse dirt on Stefani, emailed her and just made sure she knew who the more capable bully was. Then I decided to be proactive. I got dirt on a bunch of others and made it clear to them that “denouncing me” would be far worse for them than acquiescing to Melissa’s demands. It wasn’t easy. Any idea how difficult it is to find dirt on Paul Jaminet? Well, at least Robb Wolf made up for it. That was an easy one.
[Added later: for the humor challenged (hint, hint), the foregoing paragraph is a complete fabrication.]
This one came out of the blue and since already a done deal, I did something totally uncharacteristic and sent an up-&-up email to Mark instead of trying to out bully Melissa.
For those newbees who keep asking “what’s this all about,” here you go; the basic history.
EMAIL OUT TO MARK FRAUENFELDER
Right to the point: You got duped, man.
Not your fault; I know you’re very busy with a million things coming at once. This isn’t a request to change anything, just to let you know. Set the record straight, etc.
I only found out last night that links from Boing Boing to FTA had been taken down some time ago, leaving only the posts themselves intact (at least with my name and blog name, so no huge biggie anyway). And apparently, you were bullied into some sort of personal apology for having linked to my blog.
Here’s where I learned this:
The “potato post” didn’t get nearly the mileage in terms of traffic that the “body washing with water only” post did three years ago. By the time you had taken down the links (looking back on my logs) traffic was at a trickle, and I rarely get referrals from the 3-year old post anyway. No real “harm” done.
What I did want to make you aware of is the backstory such that next time you come across a crusading zealot who conveniently smears someone you’ve known and corresponded with for three years, maybe you ask that person first what’s true, untrue, out-of-context, etc.
Melissa McEwen (http://boingboing.net/2012/11/15/the-fabulous-french-fry-and-ha.html#comment-713631306) Is a former friend of mine and used to be one of the most respected bloggers in the Paleosphere; now, unfortunately, co-comrade in an increasingly shrill effort to tear down not only me, but many others (some of whom you are probably aware of). Here’s just one week of it, documenting numerous attacks on 7 productive people in the Paleosphere:
So anyway, yea, she used to be a friend, commented on my blog regularly (about 175 comments in total—fully aware of my shit stirring ways on many topics). We finally met face-to-face for the first time at the first Ancestral Health Symposium at UCLA (2011) where we were both presenters. My wife & I even gave her and then boyfriend, Chris Masterjohn (a superstar in the WAPF movement), a ride to the presenter’s party and back, with a stop at Whole Foods along the way (see 1st photo: https://freetheanimal.com/2011/08/appreciating-the-people-of-the-ancestral-health-symposium-2011-ahs11.html)
Here’s a brief synopsis of how things transpired to the point she started PaleoDrama.tumblr.com last August to smear me (but has since turned to smearing, implicating, bullying almost everyone—including her longtime friend, John Durant, with whom she shared that New York Times “Caveman Diet” writeup a few years back and that got him an appearance on Colbert and a forthcoming book deal with Random House).
1. She got caught in a blatant lie in my comments. She posted under an anonymous name to smear another commenter (weak, skinny, orthorexic). He emailed me, saying he thought is was Melissa and could I check the IP. So I did. I felt no obligation to protect her lie, so I told him. He challenged her in comments, she lied. When confronted with the evidence, she offered some excuse that he was stalking her and she was afraid for her safety. Few, if anyone, believed this. The guy is pretty well known and while perhaps a bit eccentric, does not appear to be a danger to anyone—and he runs one of the oldest, most extensive indexes of Paleo/Evolutionary dietary resources on the Internet.
2. After her well received presentation at the aforementioned AHS at UCLA, she and I were both involved in plans for being members of a panel discussion on “self-experimentation” for AHS12 at Harvard Law School. In addition, I submitted a proposal for another presentation. The proposal for the panel discussion was not accepted and in an email, she admitted that she was “shocked.” My proposal for my own presentation was accepted and I presented on site while Melissa did not attend at all.
3. In the spring prior to AHS12 I became embroiled in a controversy surrounding a neurosurgeon who was making a number of questionable claims. He was being excoriated by a few people, Melissa being one of them. I and a few others (and including Robb Wolf — “The paleo Solution,” NYT bestseller) defended the guy initially, saying in effect, “let up on the guy, let’s wait & see.” For my part, I was really not interested in any of the “hocus pocus” but on his stuff about “cold thermogenesis,” having been a fan of cold water therapy at my gym for years. Well, the whole thing blew up, I blew up (used the c-word to Melissa), everyone blew up.
4. The first shot was fired by Melissa in a blog entry during that time. I replied in kind (and publicly exposed the lie in #1) in a blog entry. We appeared to have “made up” and exchanged emails, even about personal things like the reasons for her breakup with Chris Masterjohn. These roughly dozen personal email exchanges happened after I had used the “c-word.” “Don’t worry, I’m not a tender flower,” she wrote in a comment on my blog.
5. After AHS12 (which Melissa didn’t attend, but I did a well received presentation), one of the volunteers wrote a very critical blog post about the event and its attendees (basically: too many rich white people, not enough minorities, poor people, sick people). I did my kinda standard, libertarian sort of hit & run on the thing (https://freetheanimal.com/2012/08/ahs12-whining-and-gnashing-of-teeth.html).
And next I know, out of the blue, “PaleoDrama” ensues.
And now we’re all dealing with, and you were duped by, the common zealot with only a hammer, where everything looks like a nail (misogyny, sexism). You know: it’s that person in high school who read Rand, Chomsky, Marx or whomever, and in those initial years, literally everything was filtered through that paradigmatic lens.
It gets to the point where the zeal to “save the world” and “right the wrongs” becomes so essential that outright lies, distortions, and out-of-context word bites are seen as a necessary measure, much like environmentalists have outright admitted to lies and embellishments in advancement of the “greater good.” Most recently, for example, Melissa continues to lie on various comment boards that I “explicitly published” a physical threat against her in a comment (allowed it explicitly through moderation). This, after I have twice communicated to her how my moderation is set up (for first time commenters only) and that I deleted the comment in question, banned the commenter and deleted every other comment the moment I saw that threat.
Finally, Mark, regardless of what comes to pass in the future—and I’m saving the best for last here and the only thing that really matters—you have indirectly helped dozens, perhaps hundreds of people through publishing my stuff and linking to it on Boing Boing. I’ve lost count of how many emails and comments I’ve received over three years that begin with “I came over here from the ‘no-poo’ post on BoingBoing.” These people have lost significant weight and improved their health and well being.
Here’s one in pictures that I actually published in the Success Story category:
Man Comes Here to Have a Laugh; Loses 65 Pounds
As I was drafting this email to you, this comment came in:
“I first came here as a fat (and gradually getting fatter), schlub a couple of years ago because of the BoingBoing no soap article. That fatal day (Heh) lead directly to me losing 45 lbs in 3 or 4 months, regaining the sense of smell that I hadn’t had for years, completely eliminating my GERD, and ended with my feeling better than I ever have. I use soap to wash my hands after using the bathroom and before food prep, but I still don’t use shampoo or soap to wash my hair/body and have no issues with dandruff/greasy hair or dry skin.
“I frequently think you are an idiot politically, and I have a genuine distaste for the name-calling and paleo-drama/trauma that occasionally appears. But if I didn’t more-often-than-not find what you write to be interesting and/or informative, then I wouldn’t return, it’s as simple as that.”
How refreshing it is in this new world of the Internet to increasingly deal with people who have used it to enhance their adult status. It’s unfortunate that some are still attracted to adolescent idealism and regress back to being the equivalent of children.