Hint: Way Easier To Change What You Think Rather That What You Believe

 Dary Pino Rose is a buddy. She calls me “dude.”

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Lunch With Kevin Rose’s Wife 🙂

You know how I know she’s legit? I pitched her a totally fucktarded idea in email last week involving the general food-health-gut-o-sphere, and she called me on it. I lacked perspective she had; I had to agree, once I got a whiff.

…I first met Darya via her blog some years ago (originally published 2010). I have just always liked her style, and she’s up in SF, goes to the Ferry Building Farmer’s Market, etc. For me, she has always been the most decent check on my paleo exuberance. Yes, I actually like to keep some people close who think I’m wrong, so long as they aren’t fucktards.

…I’ve been on Darya’s email list forever and usually, it’s run-of-mill. Not this time. Grils learn, yo! I loved it so much. I gave her a silly barrage of emails as I was reading. This is true blogging. Many can write. So few come to be able to let you see their beating heart.

The No.1 Thing That Prevents You from Changing Your Habits

When I first went to college the last thing I cared about was learning to cook. Neither of my parents had a degree, and by the time I was in middle school it was clear to me that higher education was my only ticket to salvation.

I remember running errands with my mom one afternoon and seeing her bump into an old classmate she knew from high school. “Oh, hi! Wow, I haven’t seen you in 20 years.” They exchanged pleasantries and parted ways. It was obvious the two of them had no real desire to keep up with each other and that they were just being polite for etiquette’s sake. We were all glad when it was over.

The school they both attended was only a few blocks down the street and I knew it would be my fate to go there as well. Class of ’97. Go Vanguards.

I adore getting better glances into the souls of folks who endeavor to write and convey. I’ve always known there’s a lot of submerged material lurking—as it is for moi meme.

So, if you’ve a mind, encourage Darya in comments for the added insight.

Richard Nikoley

I'm Richard Nikoley. Free The Animal began in 2003 and as of 2021, contains 5,000 posts. I blog what I wish...from health, diet, and food to travel and lifestyle; to politics, social antagonism, expat-living location and time independent—while you sleep—income. I celebrate the audacity and hubris to live by your own exclusive authority and take your own chances. Read More


  1. doGnuts on September 16, 2014 at 23:59

    been a while since i’ve seen a long discussion thread in the comments… is the talk happening somewhere else and I’m missing it?

    • Richard Nikoley on September 17, 2014 at 12:41

      “been a while since i’ve seen a long discussion thread in the comments… is the talk happening somewhere else and I’m missing it?”

      Why would I care? Fewer comments are my preference. My blog traffic is highest it’s been in a long time.

      Commenters are less than 1% of what maters, for anyone who blogs professionally.

      Really, the only way comments help is that when you’re nobody, you get a few dozen superfans who put up dozens of comments each. Then others see the comment count and jump in. But that’s way unlikely.

      You have to write content that people want to read, whether they comment or not. And, having lots of comments as a standard of writing is a very fucktardfed way to write. It’s in-genuine.

  2. golooraam on September 17, 2014 at 08:11

    bump… read this 2x and not sure either

  3. Darya on September 17, 2014 at 12:52

    omg, so glad I got rid of those bangs.

    • Richard Nikoley on September 17, 2014 at 12:54

      “omg, so glad I got rid of those bangs.”

      You’ve got no “bangs?”


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