Posted to the Facebook group linked below, today.
I had been paying more attention to the “men’s movement” (I’m using the term loosely, to encompass all) recently and then Anthony Johnson elevated me to moderator status of the Becoming The Ideal Man Group on FB. A worthy cause.
So I’ve paid more attention.
As an outsider—in spite of three speaking gigs at 21C conferences—a bird’s eye view type—I’d like to offer some impressions that may mesh with how someone from the average guy pool might be introduced t you all.
THE GOOD STUFF
- Feminism is cancer; the hubris and entitlement are beyond the pale; the ignorance, Dunning-Kruger and Solipsism is astounding, etc.
- Men should not be owned or pwned; men should not easily cave to female survival and selection strategy.
- Men should get their shit together, head out of ass, project fortitude, etc.
- Women are being harmed because they are not being fulfilled in their biological and social needs.
I’m not seeing so much manly idealism here, sad to say. I’m mostly seeing tips on game, to fuck low-status females. Sure, the good stuff is essential but that just makes you NOT a doormat.
Being a non-doormat, but then focussing on fucking low-status females is not Becoming The Ideal Man.
007 would laf at some of you basement-dwelling, bed-wetting wankers.
What I see a lot in the group is participation in Victim Olympics.
Men are not victims. They have ceded leadership on a massive scale, under fear of being outcast or rejected by a female, or all of the stupid ones. The path forward is not to whine about being victimized by a pussified, feminist culture, but to regain masculine leadership and just take back the reigns of power, by absolute force. And we can’t dance around that. It will take absolute force, or society remains feminized, victimized, puyssified.
We’ll be caught in a never ending hypergamy loop, which on a societal scale is only about female selection strategy.
Beyond Victim Olympics I see much hubris, resentment, and plain kid delusion. Instead of “I’m not going to be pushed around,” it’s “I’m not going to be a traditional gentleman and pick up the tab on a first date.”
Way to impress her, male.
It’s like in response to a realization that lots of women have been cunty for a long time, the solution is to be a man-cunt…a basic asshole…because it can work, just as it can work for women. It’s “Red Pill,” essentially employing female strategy “against” them, which is really just aligning with them. This gives her the win.
I believe this stems from two motivations.
1. Play a numbers game, which is just euphemism for getting as much low-status pussy for the honor badge.
2. Laziness. Why put in the effort to woo a high status female as a life partner if you get young, low status pussy anyway? And you don’t have to pick up the tab on a date, like SUCH AN IDEAL MAN!!!
…Western civilization has bred a kind of male that traditionally delights in the effort to pursue a good woman as a GENTLE MAN. He keeps his space clean and organized, irons his clothes, and polishes his shoes. It’s the Military ethic writ large—to mate selection and the “kill.” I’m not seeing much admonition to re-develop and re-emphasize these cultural traits.
What I see is stuff like “what cologne should I buy,” and “how do I date a lot and never have to pick up the tab?” This is female hypergamy adopted by males trying to pretend to be ideal men that a high-quality woman might select.
But it’s really only about scoring low-status pussy.
I see female-like, cunty and entitled hubris over the idea that an ideal man should endeavor to woo his exclusive pick into a genuine trust on her part; that she cannot escape the reality that she is very special to HIM and he fucking means it.
She has lots of choices, always. What can make the “kill”—always with the ubiquitous risk of ultimate and forever rejection—is that she becomes your very own true believer, wanting to believe in you for life. It’s what high-status and high-quality conservative women want.
You will have to get off of the pursuit of gaming low-status pussy and go for the “kill”of the chaste, conservative female who will settle for no less than absolute commitment if she is to invest her life in making children for you.
But more commonly around here, I see attitudes that “she’s just a basic whore,” and so you treat her accordingly. So what is it? Is she a basic whore? If so, why aren’t you directing your efforts to high-quality women instead? Afraid of the commitment and shouldering of manly responsibility a true high-quality woman will rightfully demand?
This goes to the motivation of quantity of young pussy over the quality of a good, attractive woman overall. A high status, high quality women: in brains, conservatism, a bod and sexual attitude that gets your cock hard, and a basic sweetheart with a see through smile.
How many of you guys would give a second look or thought to a woman who “won’t put out?”
How many would think, “maybe there’s some real quality virtue, there?” Would you even consider it? Would you consider a high-status 20-something who requires a solid commitment from you before she lets you into her bed or visits yours?
Too risky? Well, we get to see right in front of our eyes that what being afraid of shouldering responsibility has wrought. Those in pursuit of Ideal Manhood should be chagrined to realize they are part of the problem—endeavoring to get a free ride on as many low-status female pussies as possible.
“Too risky” to get a good young 20-something with a conservative mother and father, and get a hand off from dad in your late 20s, after you’ve made something of yourself and can protect and provide for a family of the babies she’s made for you? Ideal manhood?
Lastly, I sense a disdain—or derision, at times—towards men who seek a traditional family.
I see this often from older guys, like me, who are beyond that “start a family” timeframe with a quality woman. So they specialize in no-commitment relationships, separate finances, etc. And it’s OK for them, so they preach it to the young 20-somethings as a great lifestyle.
I’ve even seen derision towards young 30-something males who find a female with a kid fathered by an asshole, who mans up to the challenge, shouldering responsibility, sensing the chick is older, wiser, and she yearns for a male provider. A serious man.
Nope: “He’s stewarding another man’s genes.” This is not an enlightened, gentlemanly view.
How many dudes have come back from war and become the fathers of their dead buddy’s orphaned children?
That’s manly. That’s shouldering responsibility in a web of love, trust, emotion, and commitment.
Now, go get yourselves off to the local Macy’s. They have great deals on scents for “men.” It’s right next to the section where gay males are acting like girls, for girls. Go fit right in.
Or, just go buy a plain bottle of Old Spice or Bay Rum. Or, don’t even doll up your male scent at all.
And, how about this? Shouldering this sort of responsibility is easy for him. He’s not a little male-boy whose pussy hurts.