Over the years I have always endeavored to do two things, and those were to be as engaging as possible with all who read this blog—even if it culminated in an FU either way. Up until April of last year (’21), that required reading every comment, replying to about a third of them statistically, overall, and personally replying to nearly every email, even if just to personally acknowledge with a “thanks” or “got it.” It takes more time and focus than actually writing the blog. I take pride in reading every email.
Last April I transformed into to a membership space for free and paid members. But I still do plenty of public posts and the older archives are mostly public so crawlers will keep them indexed in the search engines, an advantage of having thousands of them.
After a while, I began to notice a trend. It’s a very stark one in terms of from which category I get the most emails. It should not be as surprising as it is, but it’s stark.
From whom do I get the most emails and why do I think that is?
To answer my own question and thinking about it a lot, I’ve concluded that it’s a solipsistic way of being a paying member without being a paying member. I’ll explain.
I always got plenty of emails, but only since I turned the blog into a membership site last April, nearly 10 months ago now, did I begin to have a look at who was who.
Here’s a solid list of email volume over the last 10 months, from most to fewest.
- Non members
- Free members
- Paying members
That’s in absolute terms, but adjusting it for relative population sizes would not make much difference since #1 so overshadows #2 and #3 combined, and even #2 overshadows #3. I get very few emails from hundreds of paying members.
How can this be? Perhaps some paying members can shed light?
For months I did nothing and simply conducted business as usual. I couldn’t anymore, because of raw time and attention. Taking time to be the guy standing at the door welcoming everyone was beginning to compromise things. Instead of going head down and writing something for the people who pay me, I’m out in front of my place shooting the shit with people who aren’t coming in.
That’s rank stupid and I’m fucking guilty!
I alluded to the issue back in this post from about a month ago. The guy had been emailing me for damn years, perhaps 3 or 4 years—sometimes a half-dozen emails a day. When I looked into it, not only was he not a paid member, he wasn’t a free member…and he wasn’t even a subscriber to the newsletter and had never contributed by even posting 1 comment on a single post.
Since then, over the weeks, I looked into numbers and began noticing the very stark trend. The less they’e invested in any level of this blog (paying member, free member, commenter, post sharer, etc.) THE MORE THEY EMAIL ME, CONSTANTLY.
Needless to say, that shit gets fixed today.
Yesterday was the final straw. Some guy, “MrUnconventional,” emails a half dozen times per day. Enough is good stuff and that’s why I wasn’t bothered. Then he becomes increasingly insistent during and even after I published the post about the Canadian Trucker Convoy 2022. I finally tell him I’ve already published the post and got an FU back that I’d not included even more alternative funding sources than the primary one I did give out (up to over $4 million US, now).
I finally realized that with the constant emailers who have zero investment in my blog, I’m dealing with solipsism with a certain righteous hubris.
- Only what’s in their own mind counts
- You are required to see and acknowledge that what they see is real
- To the extent you do or do not determines your level of value to them
Another aspect, I believe, is that the constant emailers who don’t buy a membership—or otherwise engage within the blog—harbor a solipsistic fantasy that what they do for me by emailing 6 times per day is better than money or in-blog engagement. They stand above that dirty fray.
This post disabuses all of them of such silly notions.
You can probably guess how I’ll manage email from now on…